One of the most painful things a child can go through is the abandonment of their father. Often characterized as “daddy issues“, this type of trauma can result in:
- low self-esteem
- feelings of inadequacy
- feeling unworthy of love, and
- the manifestation of trust issues in relationships
At least that’s what happened to me. That is, until I realized the love and nurturing I desired from my biological father wasn’t missing at all, it simply came in a different form. I just hadn’t realized that what I thought was missing had truly been there all along. Maybe that’s the case for many of you.
My George: A Love Letter to My Dad is a compilation of heartwarming stories that are a tribute to the man who raised me whom I affectionately call, “George.” Each essay details how he made me feel protected; gave me a sense of belonging, and exemplified unconditional love. And how his presence, invaluable life lessons, wisdom and unique parenting style helped heal the trauma caused by the abandonment of my biological father.
I pray my transparency about how My George helped mend my wounded heart illuminates a path for other girls and women who are on their own journey to healing the dad-size hole in their hearts. And if that’s you, you’ve found your tribe! But also, ask yourself, “Is there someone in my life who has loved and nurtured me the way my dad should’ve?” If so, acknowledge all the ways in which they’ve been there for you and celebrate them today!
And if you’re a man who is considering stepping in to fill the void in a girl’s life, or you’re already committed to that role, each of these stories underscores the profound impact and significance of your love, presence and guidance in her life today, tomorrow, forever. So celebrate yourself and then share these stories to encourage others to step in and be that guiding force for another child.
Here’s what I know….I may not have been conceived through a moment of intimacy between my mom and My George, but I am absolutely certain that I was conceived in his heart. I am who I am, because My George is, and has always been, a great man and My Dad.